On Feedback
Feedback can be hard to accept sometimes. It is not always easy to hear that you are doing something wrong. Even worse is when you recognize the deficit and do not yet possess the skills to address it. This can be a very frustrating place to be, yet here is where the magic happens. Here lies opportunity. Here we grow.
At Peak Pilates® we work within a circular learning pathway. It goes like this:
- Unconscious Incompetence - Doing it wrong and not knowing it. As the saying goes, “Ignorance is bliss”. Most of us spend long periods of time in this stage. We have a faulty movement pattern and we do not know it exists. Although this faulty movement pattern manifests in pain or injury or the inability to perform certain exercises correctly. Which bring us to the next stage…
- Conscious Incompetence - Feedback. Someone has pointed the deficit out and we observe it ourselves and still, with great effort even, cannot correct it. Here many would put their fingers in their ears and stomp their feet. There is a choice to make...give up, lose faith, deny the deficit and make excuses or change. Joseph Pilates said “Patience and persistence are vital qualities in the ultimate successful accomplishment of any worthwhile endeavor.” We must be patient and kind with ourselves. Take tiny accomplishments as great ones. As instructors, point these accomplishments out and praise them. Use building blocks. Work towards the goal and watch the magic unfold...
- Conscious Competence - High five! We did it! It takes great concentration, control and effort but the skill can be accomplished. All the hard work has made a huge impact on us. It has changed the way we perceive our bodies, the way we think and move and how we perceive the world. Now comes the work to refine the skill and make it even better…
- Unconscious Competence - Doing it right without a thought. The skill is now perfected and autonomous. Here we can get lazy and rely on automatic patterning instead of concentration and precision. Here we must work to continue to dive deeper into the exercises. Refine, refine, refine. As well, the time has come to learn a new skill and start the process all over.
Feedback is a blessing. Cherish it. Avoid becoming confrontational even if something that is said hits a nerve. Make space to take it in. Say “Thank you.” Write it down. Read it back to yourself at a later time. Let it sink in. Choose to change. Choose to work through it. Choose to improve and perceive a better world to live in. Grow, learn and seek out more feedback.


